Sold the bike last week it gone to a good home a guy called Luke from Bromley way. Had to be sold me and the wife are going are seprate ways after 12 years, 7 1/2 married togeather did not see that one coming, worst of all we have a 3 1/2 year old little girl who i love so much and though of not being part of her life, on a full time basses, ever other weekend couple of evenings a week etc fills me with dreed. She tells me she wants to start living her life whatever that meens and i am not part of it any more. take care all, keep em up right, have fun, stay safe will log on once in a while. Jules
That's real bad news mate. 12 + years is a long time. Getting rid if the bike is the easy part. Take care bud and don't loose the faith. Everything happens for a reason. You just don't know that reason yet.
+ 1 on above ,just like to add give it time , if must feel like winter now , but the sun will shine again sooner than you think , don't lose heart stick with it & thing will come good in the end .....oh and when the dust settles treat yourself to another bike, it will cheer you up no end , stay safe Bud
Oh Mate that really sucks I am really sorry to hear that, As Si says the universe works in strange ways and every action has a reason. I had something very similar a little while back, after about the same amount of time together as well. Lucky for me no kids. I am still trying work out what went down? but it's not worth looking backward, and on the plus side I go out on the bike when ever I want and stay out all day if I want, doors close and other doors open the Yin and the Yang of life. You are only local to me, if you ever want to just get away from it for a bit and talk to someone who is not close to the whole situation just bell me, there are plenty of nice pubs around here with nice gardens, just let me know. Take it easy mate, stay calm, the future is where you focus now, with or without her, follow the path that's best for you and your little girl. The offers there just PM me And you will be back on a 675 before you know it.
sad news mate things will get better just give your self time.1 tip before you react to anything your ex does or sayes think of your daughter.i kept mine sweet and we are still friends and had as much contact as i wanted . good luck
Sorry to hear that Jules - I have just gone through excatly the same mate and I am missing my son like mad. Keep your chin up mate don't let her get to you - Be Strong mate
Been there too, I went through a very messy divorce which cost me £10k and in the end its the kids that suffer. I have to say that my life is better being away from her but its hard not being with your kids. Keep your chin up it will all work out for the best it certainly did for me
Keep your chin up Jules. I moved out when my daughter was 3 years old, the toughest decision I've ever made. I see her every Tuesday evening and every weekend, and have done since I left. She's my number one priority and takes precedence over everything else. I never miss a weekend. (except 675 fest) Find something that you can share with her that her Mother doesn't. In our case I started taking her to Horse riding lessons, watching local show jumping, following the local hunt and anything to do with Horses. I also mucked in when needed and took loads of photos of her riding progress, fun competitions, poo picking ect. We spend mostly quality time with each other, that I'm sure I wouldn't have done had I still been in a relationship with her Mother, and everyone says that she is a real Daddy's girl. I hope you can see that sometimes there is plenty of positives to be gained from what seems like a negative situation. Best wishes Jules.
Jules, Im really sorry to hear about your situation, one of my NCOs at work is going through the same thing at the moment. Really upsetting stuff, I hope your little girl isnt too badly effected. Take it easy mate.
Sorry to hear this Jules, People grow apart, argue, separate, divorce etc...stuff just happens, - the bad thing is that there's a child involved..at only 3, you're both probably lucky...she'll adapt to the new situation in no time at all & not blame herself in some way, like kids a few years older often do. Do yourself a favour & keep life really simple for the time being mate, and above all, best of luck to all three of you. Darren.
Sorry to hear you are going through a tough time at the mo. Lots of support on hear though so don't be a stranger
Hay Jules, Thing will work out in the end mate, I know everything feels raw & the thought of not seeing your little girl everyday is hard but it will be ok. You know you will be there for her & she will know the same, like you she will look forward to spending time with Her Dad Keep your chin up & things will come together.
Jules like many above I've been there - but 20 yrs back. It was without a shadow of doubt my darkest time. Suffice to say at some point in the future it will get better. The hurt stays but dims. As Davetona says - make it quality time with your little girl. Good Advice - I will vouch for it. Stay safe, stay sane and don't give in to the dark times. We'll be here waiting for you mate. DG
as its been said jules dont be a stranger, sorry to hear about your situation mate. a lot of people on here have been in your situation myself included so dont feel like you have to disapear from the forum just because you sold the 675. the only advice i would give, is dont isolate yourself from the world and try and keep it civil with the ex (for your daughters sake). i know what we say, might not help you in your situation because you are probably going through a rollercoaster of emotions. take it easy mate.
All really good advice chaps. I am fiding it difficult and I am sure you are as well Jules, to come to terms with what has happened but, you really know who your mates are during the difficult times. don't cut yourself off, there will be better times and there is always will be - Here is to single life
Thanks for all the advice lads, seems I am not the only one out there with women troubles. Seems to be all to commom now that poeple think it's easier to walk away, than try an sort there problems out, looking back if could of seen the problems I would of try and sorted then out and we proberly not be in this mess that were in. All my mates are really coming togeather for me as well which is nice, as over the years I was to wrapped up in my wife and negiected my mate. Cheers lads, Jules
Jules, I've been watching this thread, I really feel for you but I honestly don't know what to say. It's a horrible thing to happen and I'm glad your mates have ralllied round. Wishing you peace and strength.
Presuming its a graphite 06, the guy who bought it is a friend of mine. I will make sure he looks after it! Bikes are great but its more important to sort family stuff out and come back to bikes when you can. Hope things go alright for you and your littl'un, sorry that you needed to sell up
